Hello everyone, I hope all of you beautiful souls are striving forward in your lives no matter the struggles and hindrances. I hope that you have a bunch of people by your side ready to follow you down to the gates of hell. I hope you are proud of yourself for coming this far and still having this exceptional amount of energy to constantly fuel your soul. I hope the peace is alive within your hearts and tranquility within your lives. It has been really an amazing week for me too, amazingly good and amazingly bad. Well last few weeks were emotionally fluctuating, energy draining, spiritually relinquishing and its like a new chapter has taken a leap forward in my life. So today we’ll talk about one of most generic topics i.e. emotions and feelings, I’ll share my experiences and philosophies and I’m looking forward to hear yours too.
Emotions, powerful word indeed, one enough to bring a catastrophe or salvation to lives, based on its source of origin. In fact emotions are nothing more than just a game of hormones in our brain. The positive ones have a playground named prefrontal cortex and the negative ones have amygdala. When you think of it that way, it all looks much simpler and minuscule to even brood about. But all this spirituality turns futile when you see that annoying kid in your class or that duck faced teacher with severe torture issues. Not even great saints or great philosophers have been able to conquer emotions, many of such great thinkers, spiritual preachers who were believed to have achieved greater level of enlightenment have been found to have broken moral values, social norms, cultural restrictions just because they were deluded into a vile play by their emotions.
So what’s the solution, what’s the key of controlling such bockety entity. Well, I don’t know it yet. I’m still searching for the ultimate emotional resilience and it seems a long long way from where I’m right now. But before we chase that eternal harmony let’s take some time to look at what emotional balance means, what are myths and realities behind it.
To most peoples the emotional balance means inner satisfaction, well whatever, its satisfaction, inner or outer. By satisfaction, it covers a wide range of wishes and desires that are money, fame, beauty, health, girlfriends/boyfriends, loving happy family, supporting acquaintances and friends, awesome career, passion as job of life, etc. The list is kind of never ending and varying from people to people. Now among above mentioned satisfaction parameters, getting all on them at once is sorta impossible so there you go, emotional turbulence hitting you hard. Let me tell you one thing, trying to achieve satisfaction through things that are themselves somehow related to materialism is not that easy. For instance lots of money will induce fear, roaring fame will snatch your social or personal life, beauty will fade with time, etc.
Now you may ask, what is wrong in desiring health, relationships, friends and family or pursuing passion?
You are absolutely right, these are some more positive desires than others, more interconnected to internal peace rather than just external touch. But what if you caught some diseases like asthma, diabetes, etc from genetic cause. Despite being a person with healthiest routine, regular exercise, good diet, no smoking or drinking, you have a disease as legacy, an ancestral gift. Your health is now not as you expected it to be, so will you stay gloomy your whole life, cursing your fate?
Unexpected shits happen sometimes despite our best efforts but that’s no reason to lose your cool and make whole life miserable. Your health may be bad, your family may have been broken, your partner may have cheated upon you, your passion might not give you income enough to have a decent life, and whatever other big rocks life throws right at your face, just remember that your emotions are yours to govern. Well I know it all feels like all big talks. I was completely deteriorated when my best and long time friend left me, that was a hard time for me and the scar is still in me somewhere but I’ve accepted my part and chosen not to linger in that grim time. As Mark Mansion suggests, “The events of our life are not under our control, but how we choose to react to that certain event is completely in our hand”. And in fact, the situations sometimes are created by us somehow, like the partner that betrayed you was initially chosen by you so accept that. Acceptance is very very hard thing to adopt but its a very powerful tool in bringing emotional harmony. When you accept that the nasty situation you’re in is somehow your fault, or accept that the emotions you’re showing in the certain situation are yours to control, you somewhat get the grip of your feelings. Now I’m not saying that you’ll be able to laugh when your friend die, that would be just diabolic, I’m just saying that you’ll be able to recover back to the emotional harmony state once suffered some damage to it. I call it emotional elasticity, a property of emotions to get back to the balanced state once suffered enough force to disturb the tranquility. I’m not teaching how to become heartless but I’m teaching how to use heart blended with brain, the blend of feelings and inner consciousness.
This is a kind of topic where there is no end, no beginning and no perfect solution. Some will find my article genuine while some will find it as a sick attempt of all talk motivation. Before I stop tapping these buttons, let be just add a few more things to this article, say its for my satisfaction and after all that’s our primary goal here.
I’m gonna be direct here, make a list and yes I mean a well labelled, written or typed list. A list of names of people whose opinion matters to you, genuine souls who you believe are influential to your life and then screw the rest.
This is a major gruesome cancer in our lives, we are highly affected by other’s opinions, its like we’re the puppets of society and the strings are too tangled to even solve, well there is no reason for you to solve it, just cut the strings. Inferiority complex is also other deal-breaker that eats you and your potential, and its a child of too much care given to too many things/humans. “Hey look! Mark just uploaded a photo with his wife in front of his new car”, damn! and I’m just struggling to get a job in my classic bike, not to mention the failed relationships. This is just an example of our comment over a photo of our old buddy Mark in social media. This envy, jealousy and inferiority complex does nothing but kills our actual potential giving birth to a crippling anxiety and thus damages the integrity of consciousness. What if Mark is struggling over his relationship, what if he has some really ugly health issue, what if he hates his job to a point enough give birth to depression,etc. are just some potential dark sides of a person, social media won’t show us. Social media is a connector but it is also a platform that exaggerates the emptiness of the highly aloof humans in the form of such car photos, it sometimes connects us far more than necessary. We can’t just stop caring about something just like that, we can’t just stop envy, jealousy like there is a magic trigger, it needs time and patience as well as try. So make a list, a list of people whose opinions matters to you, list of things that only can affect your emotional integrity and make sure not to include Mark’s facebook life there, follow that list and screw everything else. Sometimes just a dab of digital detachment can really aid your journey of emotional harmony.
I guess this will be enough for today, I have lots of more things to share on this topic so I’ll be back with some more. Listen to music, and have patience, don’t let the world beat you down, don’t depend on too many humans, don’t attach yourself to things, and finally enjoy your life. Happiness and sadness are like day and night, each hitting your life at an interval so learn to embrace both rather than run away from one and never letting go of other. Be selfish!!, see you all.